Abortion: Finding Life, After Death…November 2, 2012
How do you comfort a woman in your congregation who has had abortion? How do you deal with friends who confess to you that they have, in the past, ended a pregnancy? These are not easy questions to be sure. Below is a very helpful suggestion from CCEF .(The Christian Counseling & Education Foundation)
Excerpted from a track available for purchase in full here.
“Imagine a woman who has previously had an abortion waking one morning with the realization that she has murdered her own child. She experiences guilt, grief and loss over this child, who will never be replaced. The death of her own flesh and blood is on her hands. Gripped with emotion she comes to you for help and relief. What will you tell her? How will you attempt to relieve this grief that inhabits her soul?”
“Approach her with love, compassion and hope. In this state the woman’s only hope in obtaining real peace is in a loving, forgiving, gracious God. This is the same God who sent His Son Jesus to die for us sinners on the cross as payment for our sin (John 3:16). As a result, even the killing of the woman’s child might be forgiven so that she could be reconciled to God. Hope is found in this wonderful salvation offered to us as a free gift (Rom. 6:23).”
“The biggest tragedy for this woman is that her sin and guilt have not only hindered her relationship with God and other people, but they have also prevented her from fulfilling God’s purpose and plan for her life. God has called us to holiness. When we recognize the ugliness of our sinfulness and the beauty of His grace, it should drive us to want to serve Him, to live in the radiance of His beauty (1 Pet. 1:14-16; 3:1-6). Help your counselee to find opportunities to use her gifts and talents to serve the Lord. She can share her story to help comfort and counsel others. She can serve at a crisis pregnancy center or in her church. Only God can sanctify our deepest distress and use the bad for good. One day your counselee may be able to sing, “Fill me with fire where once I burned with shame, grant my desire to magnify thy name.”
“As Christians we must address these women with a spirit of meekness, being compassionate and sensitive to her needs while speaking the truth in love. Some women will reject God’s plan of salvation. Others will begin a process of change and then resist further counseling. It is important that you take them as far as they will go in the processes of reconciliation, restoration, renewal, and healing. If necessary, warn them that following the way of the transgressor is hard (Prov.13:15); if you harden your heart, you will be suddenly broken (Ps. 29:1); and they may experience physical or emotional consequences due to sin (Ps. 32:3). Challenge those who will listen to use their remembrance of the past so that they might be gracious, merciful and helpful to others, humble in spirit, and able to rejoice in God’s goodness. Motivate them to use the remainder of their lives to serve and follow their forgiving God.”